Thursday, December 23, 2010

Merry Christmas!!!! If you find the Christmas Spirit, please send it my way :)

We're going through the motions here at Casa de Harried Mom. The house is cleaned (mostly), presents are wrapped (also mostly), and finally, on Christmas Eve I'm ready to do some cookie baking. I wouldn't feel right about setting out Chips Ahoy and Oreos for Santa, you know. I am so excited for Sarah and Jason this year, just seeing the look in their eyes on Saturday morning - I cannot wait to see that! It's a magic time for them - Sarah of course knows what to expect,  and now this year Jason knows that SOMETHING BIG is happening, but doesn't have the full picture yet.
And then there's the big kids. I really don't want to be a Debbie Downer, but honestly? I could really care less about giving the two of them anything. Especially the big kid. Of course, they are sleeping as I write this, so I'm feeling perhaps a bit more charitable towards them. Or not. I don't know. William sort of gets a bit of a pass, in my mind, because he's not constantly asking for things - all he wants out of life right now is time to play video games. It's his favorite thing in the world - his December Journal from school mentioned the Wii multiple times. Can you make a career playing Wii? Anyway - William really never asks anything of anyone, and usually doesn't cause much trouble, either.

Evie is another story. What to say? She makes me crazy. Truly. Two days before Christmas, first full day of winter break from school, and she's lying about finishing her tasks for the day. It's not like I asked her to complete an enormous list of unmanageable stuff, I asked her to pick up her room and practice the piano. That girl SWORE UP AND DOWN that she had practiced, telling me she did it while I was running water cleaning the bathrooms. Apparently she thinks I'm an idiot. Or that I can't hear. Regardless - 3 years into lessons that she asked to take, and I really think I'm over battling with her about practicing. I'm really over battling with her about EVERYTHING. Is this the job of the first-born, to challenge you at every turn and make you question why you thought kids were a good idea?? That girl turns everything we say into a debate or an argument. I could write a dissertation on Evie and our interactions right now, but suffice it to say, Evie is used to doing what she wants while we're managing the other 3, and it's not in her nature to want to be helpful. Evie likes to help in her own way or not at all. Deep sigh. 

So that's where we are right now, heading into Christmas Eve. I just typed Christmas Evie :) lol! Too much wine? Probably. Anyway. Suffice it to say, we're really wondering at what point your kids become sufficient to the point where you can ask them to help out, and they actually do it without you having to sit on them and watch. I'd really like to know when that happens...
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Sarah wanted to put the star on the tree this year!!! She did a terrific job - in the past, Evie's asked to do it, but she always seems get scared when Matt lifts her up to the top & William ends up taking over. This time Sarah asked if she could, and without a bit of hesitation she plopped the star right at the very top :) My little girl is getting so big!!!

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 I made a point this year of getting into the schools for everyone's holiday celebrations - it hasn't been easy up to this point, what with S&J being one year apart, but they're very manageable at this point so we went into William's school for his party on Tuesday & caught the tail end where the kids were choosing their gifts from under the tree - each student had brought in a wrapped book...



Sarah's preschool had their party on Wednesday & she got to have lunch at school with the other kids, a rare treat!

I missed Evie's party on Wednesday because I was at Sarah's, but I did go in & see Evie because she's the LUCKY student who gets to take home the class guinea pig for winter break! LUCKY ME!!! :)
Really - Evie is OVER THE MOON over having 'Jedi' for almost two weeks. She is such an animal lover, it's really kind of crazy.  I need to come up with some way of making helping out around the house 'animal' related...
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Merry Christmas to you all! If you're traveling, Godspeed! If you're staying home, may your holiday be merry and free of strife and stress! And if not, remember there is always coffee - or even better, a good Cabernet :) 

8 comments:

  1. Well, my dear friend, I think you stated exactly why you have no spirit, in your first sentence.

    You are going through the motions.

    It is not what we do this time of year, but WHY we do.

    When your blog came up, and I saw that picture of Matt holding Sarah with the bright star in her hands...I nearly cried. If you start feeling down today, or if "Christmas Evie" starts annoying you, just look at that picture. You don't need someone to send you the spirit..the spirit is right there. You are just not seeing it.

    I will pray that you discover a new well of patience today, and that you will do things today with intent and purpose, and enjoy every moment.

    MERRY CHRISTMAS JEN to you and your family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    xo

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  2. Until I read this post, I had completely forgotten what a pain in my arse our oldest was once upon a time!! Seriously, at 17 she is the most helpful, hardest working, complient teenager I've ever known. BUT, now that you mention it, from about 9-12...coulda done without her!

    May the fact that I NEVER think of that bring you hope. As cliche as it may sound, "this too, shall pass".

    When whe was in her difficult stage I would have described her as: grumpy, complaining, fussy, bossy, argumentative, uncooperative. But now, I tell people all the time how hard she works, how she rarely has to be reminded of tasks, how capable she is (I'm convinced I could leave for two weeks, and she'd keep things running just like I do).

    Chin up! Stay on her hard...whatever you do, DO NOT GIVE UP!!! Keep the standard, the standard, and she WILL rise to meet it eventually.

    Sending Christmas Spirit your way! Hug that cousin of mine and ALL your kiddos. Wish we could all be together sometime soon! Merry Christmas.

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  3. Madison and Evie are the same age and I think its mostly age related because its happening here too. Lazy, every-single-thing comes with a sigh, mood swings from being a toddler to a teen (cant do anything by herself then she knows everything)

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  4. I'm guessing the oldest grows out of that stage about the time she's sitting here writing her own blog about her own kids. LOL
    I know you will have a wonderful holiday and I can't wait to see pics of the little kiddos on Saturday morning!

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  5. How was your Christmas Day? I hope you got plenty of sleep (our kids were ready to go at 4am!! arrggh!)

    I know how you feel, and I also know we all support ya through the ups and downs, and that you're not alone ;)

    I just wanted to wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. I've really enjoyed reading your blog throughout the year!

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  6. Oh, my goodness...your little Evie sounds just like my "little challenge". At 19 she is living on her own (her choice) and pretty much still thinks it's all about her. She is my 2nd born, so I wonder if it is a girl thing. Hmmmm. It's nice to know that someone else has real feelings about raising a child that has all the answers! lol

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  7. As my mom always says... paybacks are a ... well you know. My oldest is like that too, although I think she is still too young to get too mad at abotu the helping out thing. Why is it that some moms have it so under control when it comes to stuff like that. Uggghhh I am so envious of them! Hope your holiday spirit found you & I hope that you had a wonderful Christmas. Oh & Miss Sarah looked adorable putting up the star. Great job!!!

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  8. My oldest is 16 and because I'm in the Christmas spirit I'm not going to tell you what's still ahead!

    Merry Christmas my friend!

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